Open the Jail Doors
The second person you have to forgive is any individual from a previous relationship, especially a romantic relationship, or a bad marriage, that you still
feel angry about.
Begin by accepting that you were at least 50% responsible for what happened. You
got yourself into the situation and you kept yourself in it, long after you began to
feel unhappy. Make a decision today to forgive the other person, no matter what he
or she did or said, and just let it go. Think about who you are, what you want and
where you want to go in the future, and let the past go. “When you turn toward the
sun, the shadows fall behind you.”
It takes two people to keep someone in jail, the prisoner and the jailer. When you
let the “prisoner” out of the mental jail you have been holding him or her in, you
set yourself free as well. As Buddy Hackett, the humorist, once said, “I never hold
grudges; while you’re holding grudges, they’re out dancing!”
Issue A Blanket Amnesty
The third person you have to forgive is everyone else who has ever hurt you in any
way. Forgive your siblings and people from your childhood. Forgive your teachers
and early relationships, your bad bosses and dishonest business partners. Sweep
them all together and issue a “blanket amnesty.” Forgive every person who has
ever caused you any unhappiness in the past. Resolve today to let them go forever.
Like dropping a rock into a bottomless pit, open your hand and let those negative
experiences disappear. Don’t talk about them, think about them or review them
ever again. As far as you are concerned, they are dead issues.
Taken from : Million Dollar Habits
